Consider: you have messed up or you are being challenged by something outside of your control; imagine what would be possible for you if:
You are treated with kindness
You know you are not alone
Your awareness is focused and you feel is a calm acknowledgement and acceptance of what has happened.
Would it be easier to bear what has happened? I think so.
What is this? It is the three components of self-compassion.
It means treating yourself with kindness. It means we all share in a common humanity when it comes to messing up, we all do it. It means there is an element of mindfulness. You acknowledge the problem. You are aware a mistake was made. This compassionate view supports the ability to do some healing and then move on.
When we live from a perspective of self-compassion, our self-worth is enhanced in good times and bad. It is sustainable over time.
We are much better able to cope with the ups and downs of daily living. It provides us with resilience, the ability to bounce back.
It enhances motivation. When failure occurs, and it is there in all our lives, there is less fear of failure. Self-compassion creates an environment were it is safe to fail because you are more likely to try again.
Self-confidence is enhanced because we are not beating ourselves up with a lot of negative self talk when things don't go well.
Self-compassionate people are more likely to take responsibility for harming others and apologize. Self-compassion gives you the resources to be aware and acknowledge a mistake was made. You are more likely to say, "Wow, I was out of line there" and not think to yourself, "I am a horrible person." Here again there is no negative self-talk. Your action was wrong, not your being.
Studies have linked self-compassion with improved physiological health, including improved immune function, stabilized blood sugar in diabetics, and increased length of telomeres, which is associated with longevity. Self-compassionate individuals take better care of themselves. They are more likely to exercise and eat well.
And out of all this our relationships with others are better.
When we consider mindful, healthy living I cannot think of a more profound practice then self-compassion. Please join us for the Mindfulness and Healthy Living Retreat June 10-12, where I will lead a lively and interactive workshop on how to cultivate this incredible practice that will transform your wellbeing and those around you.
One last thing:
"I believe, with mindful attention to body-mind-spirit, and a practice of self-compassion and gratitude, we are all empowered to discover the body's innate ability for healing and balance."
Looking forward to seeing you in June!